Words full of magic
(by mian zahir hafeez)
"Make this pin for yourself, sir!" Such a delicate pen sticks in the fingers of a person like you.
I turned around and saw the salesman at the counter talking to the man standing in front of him. There were two big shoppers on the counter who must have belonged to this man. I came to the counter with the goods for the children. I was looking at the pin. Shortly after, he made a receipt for the pen and left after paying. After finishing the super store, I sat in the car and once again the scene of the super store came in front of me. That person has done a lot of shopping. Apparently he didn't even need a pen, but still his hand went to his wallet and counted the notes. Suddenly the technique of Conversational Hypnosis came to my mind. It does not talk about its purpose but by talking about other things it creates interest in the heart of the addressee for its purpose. The salesman also adopted this technique. The purpose was to sell the pen, but he did not say directly that Mr.! You buy this pen, but he first praised the man standing in front of him, showed him a superior personality and imperceptibly instilled in his mind that a pen of a mediocre quality "suits" your personality. Doesn't. So his effort paid off and the man bought the pen.
Conversational Hypnosis is an interesting theory that tells you to talk to others in such a way that your words do not offend them and that you imply them in a subtle way. The best choice of words makes a conversation effective but at the same time it is a fact that every word has its own permanent meaning and effect. If we do not have words we cannot express our feelings and emotions. And so many of our affairs of daily life remain incomplete. Words not only affect a person's external life, but also the conversation that takes place with him, which is called self-talk, also has a profound effect on his thoughts and ideas. The first thing that comes to mind after waking up in the morning (negative or positive) is that you start thinking about it for a while, then all day long. That word comes to his mind.
The word is also called "kalma" in Arabic. According to the Arabic dictionary, one of the meanings of kalma is kalam ie conversation. In addition, another interesting meaning is also stated and that is: "to injure". The logic behind it is that since words can hurt a person, hurt his feelings, demoralize him, heal him, he can break him, he can encourage him. You can do it and discourage it, so this is why it is meant.
Seven years ago today, a book was published entitled: Magic Words, the author of which is named Tim David. This book is a great book in terms of its unique subject matter. The author of this book has been writing for a long time. He was a magician and a man of mind. He was very skilled in his work and people used to participate in his programs in droves. He used to do more than three hundred live programs in a year and entertain people with his tricks. Due to his outstanding performance, he became one of the most respected personalities in his field in 2010. On social media, people from more than 70 countries approached him and became his disciples, as his profession was to enchant others. Therefore, he became well aware of the fact that along with magic tricks, words also enchant man. After further research on the subject, they found that there are seven words spoken in everyday conversation that we use several times a day, but if they are used in the best way, much better results can be achieved.
This book describes small psychological tactics by which even simple words leave their mark on the listener and change his thinking, behavior and habits. This game of word magic is so great that any In order to change a person's behavior, one does not have to tell him directly, but a new thing is put in his subconscious, that thing forces his mind to think, thinking creates action and thus the expected results. Come out The following are seven words from Tim David in this book:
1) Yes
Whenever you start a conversation with "yes", "yes" or "okay" the value of the speaker is created in your heart, even if you think about it. Disagree with. On the contrary, when you start your conversation with "no" or "no" after listening to someone, it creates repetition. Repetition makes the talk longer and longer. There is no solution. If you do not agree with someone, use "OK". Listen patiently and then offer your opinion, then it is very possible that the listener will accept your opinion and thus you Will get their word out.
2) But, but
A man is introducing you to something. When he speaks, he suddenly says "but" and the word immediately strikes your brain. You are curious that after "but" it What will he say? ”But, but“ These two words are used between two sentences and usually when these words are spoken, it means that what has been said before is now being denied. The event is mentioned before "but" and the reason for the incident is stated in the next sentence. "But the sentence after" has great power, because it is spoken with full argument. If you find it difficult to speak out against someone else's opinion, you can use the power of but. Start your conversation with 'yes' then repeat the opinion or belief of the person in front as the first sentence and put 'but'. Then give your opinion or belief which is the second sentence.
3) Because
Our brains are in search of facts. We readily accept things that make sense to us. The word "because" also serves as a link between two sentences. The sentence before "because" is an event that has happened to us and it is often difficult for us to acknowledge or accept it. The sentence after "because" explains the cause of the incident and Thus the incident described in the first sentence becomes tolerable. Whatever is said for no reason, people get entangled in it and cannot accept it.
4) Name of the addressee
According to Dale Carnegie, the most attractive word in the world is man's own name. There is a charm in the name that is not found in any other word. Calling any person by his name makes him realize that I have a status. It is a kind of honor. Even in a crowd, someone's name If he is called, his attention will immediately go to the voice of who called his name from where. Call every human being by his name so that respect for you will increase in his heart.
5) If
The word "if" breaks the resistance in the sentence and gives the listener a new hope. "If" The word "whenever" is used in conversation, the listener realizes that the speaker is on it. He is not imposing his words but he is giving full importance to it and he wants to make a decision only after consulting him. For example, your friends want you to go for a walk with them but you have to do something important. I am busy and you tell them: "If we go to Syria, this sentence is more effective than if you refuse to go."
6) Help
In everyday life we often need the help of others but often this help is asked in such an awkward way that the person who helps helps but with great reluctance. For example you have your laptop in the office. Forget it but come home and you need it. You remember your friend is still in the office. You need his help. Now one way is to call him and say: "You The other way is to tell him: "I need your help. Please come and get my laptop." In that case, your job will be done, but in another way, your friend will realize his importance. This is an effective way to honor another person.
7) Thanks
The word "thank you" melts in the ears of the listener. His spirits rise and he wants to come to your work in the future as well. This word is also a proof that you have appreciated the importance of a person's work. Understood and want to honor it. This is the habit that makes a person very valuable in personal and professional life.
A wise man says:
* "A person learns to speak at the age of two, but when to speak, it takes a lifetime to learn."
These are all words in the book Magic Words that teach you what to say on what occasion and how to convince your audience in a pleasant way. These words are part of your conversation from today. Make sure you keep track of the miles you have and if and when they expire.
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